We Share One Life, We Are One Life
Inscrutably involved, we live
in the currents of universal reciprocity.
*Martin Buber. I and Thou.
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Simply a simple handshake. One reaches out, another reaches out. Two hands join, two palms inward. What was separate, apparently, now together, truly. Holding and being held take place, each the same. We do this so mindlessly, as a social convention, a politeness. In this simple gesture, we can find an invitation, we can discover the truth that we are here to love, meaning to share, meaning our lives, our very beings, are to enter into each other. Possibly, we will find, if we are prepared, to see that we were in each other all along.
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please, don't apologize to anyone or feel shame
for your heartfelt, sometimes heart-wrenching, yearning
to love and be loved
please, don't feel guilt
when you pull away from anyone
for your heart longs for deep sharing ~
sometimes pulling away is a rite of love
for the other and yourself
for fidelity to the relationship
needs to take another form, best for you each
(if you ever truly loved each other, the change is not a 'goodbye,'
just a change, and sometimes we have to trust
the wisdom inherent in the relationship,
as it shifts and transforms into another form)
in a culture of busyness, distraction, and social media
friend and connection is thrown around like a puff of fluff
be thankful you're not sedated to the ancient yearning
to know and be known intimately
that you still feel the longing for mutually-shared openness
that you refuse to settle for less, even if that
means you're alone and maybe, at least sometimes, lonely
please, don't pay attention
to the nonsensical cliche
that in relationships one is to have no expectations ~
is it not inherent in our nature to reach out to be reached out to?
are not the two really one act of loving?
is it not true our hearts and bodies are made to be held and to hold?
and thank you
~ congratulations ! ~
for the courage to be alone or lonely
if that's what it means
to refuse to settle for less than your heart chooses
to be true to yourself
to wait for authentic, reciprocal affection
however long it takes to come your way
~ be patient, you're not alone, you share in a grand company
of waiters for companionship
not person-to-person but heart-with-heart
nothing less than a beautifully-orchestrated holy communion
as sacred and lovely as any other
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Sometimes, one is left with only his or her heart and, then, the listening can really begin? Then arises the discovery that in intimacy with oneself, one becomes intimate with everyone. One learns, with this learning, we need no one to be with everyone, with everything. One is shown this already being one with everyone is the wisdom from which arises yearning to touch and be touched, to hold and be held, to share together with another secrets of our heart we would share with no one else. We, then, move among others, while our heart remains oft in an aloof quietness, simply being with more closely than others know or most are able to know. Then, sometimes and suddenly, a reciprocal connection happens with another, another whose being is receptive like ours. This may happen often, or so infrequently we never cease to be surprised when it does. We cannot make this kind of sharing happen, we can, however, prepare ourselves to be prepared for it. So, this is the truth, the less we rely on others for what is already within our own heart, the more capacity we have to be intimate with them, heart-to-heart. And that you now feel a longing for a depth you have never known, be thankful, for this is because you have been prepared to know a closeness you have never known before, possibly an intimacy of heart you dreamed of long ago but could not welcome until now. Life has a wisdom in withholding from us what we want but cannot yet receive. Trust life, now, trust life, patiently and thankful for what is to be given before the being given.
*All material, unless another source is cited, is authored by the presenter of Lotus of Heart, Brian Kenneth Wilcox, Florida USA. Use of the material is permitted; Brian only requests that credit be given and to be notified at firstname.lastname@example.org .
*Brian's book, An Ache for Union, is available through major booksellers.
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The Sacred in Me bows
to the Sacred in You